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Couples Counselling in Vancouver

Where Do We Start?

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First, let's explore outcomes:

You deserve a couples counselling experience that delivers both practical tools and facilitates deep emotional bonding. When we meet, you’ll be invited to explore how past experience influences current patterns of behaviours and emotions within the relationship.

❋ Structured Collaboration

In the first five or so sessions, we will centre our conversations on identifying different areas of strength and improvement in your relationship. Specifically, principles of The Gottman Method, Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy, and the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy are explored.

❋ Connection is Everything

(Re)Connection is at the heart of the process. We will explore patterns of behaviour through an attachment and emotion focused lens. Relationships are in continuous flux of connection, disconnection, and reconnection. Trailheads will emerge to access understanding what is happening for you and your partner on a deeper level.

❋ Let Down Your Walls

Perhaps you have felt alone, burdened, shame. Those walls are up for a reason. Wherever you are, there is hope and you don’t need to do this alone. Let’s be radically curious about what is informing the need to protect yourself, and discover how the vulnerability underneath can feel safe to be seen.

❋ Being Attuned, Turning Towards

Learn to tune in to you and your partner’s unmet needs, and have your needs be met too. Yes, even when those needs are seemingly in opposition. There are unique ways you can turn towards each other and feel seen, and this process involves discovering them.

Repair after Rupture

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Reclaim Self within Relationship

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Re-Ignite the Fire

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One Partner is Transitioning

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Opening the Relationship

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Repair after Rupture ✳︎ Reclaim Self within Relationship ✳︎ Re-Ignite the Fire ✳︎ One Partner is Transitioning ✳︎ Opening the Relationship * Dead Bedroom 

The First Few Steps:

  • Reach out for a 15-min consult at evelyntaylortherapy@gmail.com or filling out the contact form.

  • I offer in-person couples therapy in Vancouver, BC or online across British Columbia, Alberta, Saskatchewan, or Manitoba.

    If you are based in Ontario or Quebec, please contact me for options as your provincial licensing requirements are different.

  • Sessions can be 50, 75, or 90 minutes. When starting out, I see the best results when we either meet weekly for 50 minute appointments, or if not then 75 minute appointments every 2 weeks.

    Most clients will eventually move to every other week or less once we all agree that progress towards your goals has been reached.

    For starting couples therapy, I recommend meeting at least every 2 weeks to start as this allows for us to make more efficient use of the initial therapy process (eg. developing trust, assessing the relationship as a whole and the concerns bringing you in).

  • In the first five sessions or so, we will start semi-structured and lay the groundwork for how to meet your goals. This includes:

    • Meeting for 1-2 couple sessions, then

    • Meeting for an individual session with each partner for the following purposes: (1) gather more information about your relationship dynamic. (2) clarify your individual goals within the relationship. (3) understand your attachment fears and needs underlying interactional positions within the dynamic. (4) share further depth about your experience without the presence of your partner in the room processing it.

    • Providing personalized tools and resources to supplement your process within sessions

  • Couples counselling has a clear-defined roadmap using the Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) framework. With that said, as with anything progress is not linear. The process is less about following a manualized set of steps, and more about experiencing changes in real time through our chats. This can be done by supporting you to learn specific communication strategies for realizing the type of relationship you want.

    In addition to these communication strategies, you will also be empowered to recognize your own ways of protecting yourself that is affecting the relationship.

    If you have read this far, you are likely interested enough to meet for a chat and see if it’s a good fit. Truthfully, I’m starting to struggle with keeping the word count to a minimum on this section.

    I really look forward to meeting you directly. Book Your Consult Here

“Both consciously and unconsciously we are looking to know: If I turn towards you, will you be there for me? Will you receive and accept me instead of attack, criticize, dismiss or judge me? Will you comfort me? Will you respond in a way that calms my nervous system? Do I matter to you? Do I make a difference in your life? Can we lean into and rely on each other?”

Jessica Fern

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